Hypnotherapist can make 'grief very brief'
TEMECULA: He helps people deal
with their problems through special techniques and training.
10:00 PM PST on Saturday,
December 23, 2006
By
TIM O'LEARY
The Press-Enterprise
Photo:
William Wilson Lewis III / The Press-Enterprise
TEMECULA
- Hurting over the holidays? Temecula clinical Hypnotherapist Paul Rieker wants
to help. He is offering his services free today, Christmas and Tuesday.
Paul
Rieker, a clinical Hypnotherapist at Southwest Family Counseling in Temecula,
says he has no idea how many people will take him up on his offer of free help.
"If there's 50 people or three, that's OK," he said, adding, "If
there's 500, I'll be busy."
Rieker, who works
at Southwest Family Counseling in Temecula, said he can't think of any activity
he would rather do than help others during the holiday season.
"I'd rather
be here helping someone find joy over Christmas than any other gift I could
receive," he said, an infectious smile stretching from ear to ear during
an interview in a group discussion room at the Jefferson Avenue clinic.
It is there that
he invites visitors to sink into one of two overstuffed couches as he sits
cross-legged on the floor, gets them to close their eves as he verbally relaxes
them and encourages them to examine their past and their problems.
"We can make
grief very brief," he said. "I'm sorry that it sounds so simple, but
it's simple work."
Rieker is so
confident he can help people that he's invited a cross-section of experts to
watch as he works with people suffering from grief, depression, Fibromyalgia,
teeth grinding and other difficulties.
While medical
experts acknowledge that hypnosis can be a valuable tool in tackling physical
and emotional problems, some caution that the field is not regulated by the
state and it is best administered by licensed psychiatric professionals.
"That's the
key issue," said David Spiegel, of the Department of Psychiatry and
Behavioral Sciences at Stanford University.
Hypnosis has been
shown to help patients deal with pain and other problems, Spiegel, a medical
doctor who has written one book and about 50 scientific articles on the topic,
said in a telephone interview Wednesday. He said he could not endorse nor
comment on Rieker's offer to provide free hypnotherapy over the holidays.
The use of
hypnosis and acupuncture to manage pain was addressed in a January 2000 paper
for the Journal of the American Medical Association. The paper by Jane E.
Loitman, a doctor with the Brown University School of Medicine, concluded that
physicians and their patients can benefit by learning about such alternative
forms of treatment and knowing when and where to apply them.
Rieker, 51, said
he obtained a certificate four years ago from the Glendale-based American
Council of Hypnotist Examiners, which requires 300 hours of training at a
state-approved school, followed by an internship. His immersion in the
techniques began in 1984, when a Colorado Hypnotherapist helped him overcome a
severe depression and heal scars that lingered from his mother's suicide eight
years earlier. Rieker began practice in 1985, his 1st client was in
severe pain.
Rieker said
Hypnotherapist Dan Roden began practicing in the 1960s. Those hypnotherapy
sessions, lasting less than a month, enabled Rieker to replace the anger he
felt with fond memories and thoughts of joy, happiness and understanding.
Rieker, who has
lived in the Temecula area since 1989, cites changes in state law that were
passed in 2002 and recognized alternative medical treatments. Senate Bill 577,
which modified the state's Business and Professions Code, noted that perhaps
more than 5 million Californians were receiving alternative medical treatments.
"It's very
difficult to say how people get better," he said. "I can't say I've
changed everybody who has come in here, but I can say most people know within
an hour or so if this is good for them."
Reach Tim O'Leary at
951-375-3733 or toleary@PE.com
Paul
Rieker contact information:
Southwest Family Counseling Temecula CA 951-970-5641
2006 Christmas Grief Intervention at Southwest Family Counseling:
On
December 24th Christmas Day and December 26th 2006
Many
people come for Grief Resolutions. Here are their stories
Confidentiality
is so important, and in keeping with that, we need to learn and share how Grief
can be resolved in a short period of time.
·
A woman from San Diego, led by her Mother
found many resolutions in 90 minutes. Two years after her boyfriend died, on
this Christmas day, she is finally was able to resolve… “He’s behind me” and
break the severe guilt, which she knew was not true, but her emotions caused
her to ruminate on “what she could-a or should-a done”. The clear decision she
had was to find the friends, which she had pushed away for such a long time to
join her in joyful life and play.
But, she’s heard the advice over and over, for the past 2 years. Her
CLEAR and FOCUSSED attention in trance, allowed her new and joyous resolutions.
These resolutions were verbalized to her before, but before this Christmas day
those words were not hers to own, in her emotions. You see the difference
between the hearing of someone else’s teaching and the breaking of the
‘Wrappers of Anger and Fear’ occurs in minutes- when in trance. Walking out of
grief is a significant difference in trance. I wish you could have seen this, witnessed this,
and talk about this huge change with her, when it occurred. This beautiful
young woman, her turning point to find that her love, who passed, is now behind
her. Standing behind her, in thought and in time. Perhaps finding new love and
marriage can now be real. Perhaps now her life can become full again. For her a
life of grief was extinguished in 90 minutes.
·
A man from the Redlands area brought his
wife the day after Christmas. She was in severe Fibromyalgia, without
restorative sleep. For the 1st time the day after Christmas said she
“slept better than ever”. Her husband said he thinks the symptoms of FMS were
changed in that session. Although this is not everything she needed in an hour,
it was what she needed to learn so she can return to clear the other impasses
she has begun understanding how restful and restorative sleep is again becoming
hers.
·
A woman with severe pain from bone spurs on
her vertebrae, living in Riverside County came on Christmas Eve… In an hour and
one/half she learned gloved anesthesia. Before the session, she could not bend
without pain. After the session, her husband saw her wash the painful spot with
her hand and saw the relief in her voice, her facial expressions and as she
bent over, she could almost touch her toes. She commented the pain was less,
after using gloved anesthesia WITHOUT pain killers than she experienced with
the pain killers she was prescribed.
What a Blessing, she has in her thoughts, Pain Relief when she chooses
to use her mind to overwhelm her own pain with joy.
·
A woman, who wanted to be anonymous, and to
have an anonymous problem, came on Christmas Eve. Encouraged by a friend.
Although I did not know what specifically she was seeking a resolution to, it
was clear that after she cried the last tear for that thought. Next Christmas
she will NOT carry that emotional impasse which she had in 2006. We don’t need to know what aspect of
anger or fear she walked from; but she is thankful that this was her
experience, without that fear which she held previously in her life or career.
·
A man with Fibromyalgia Symptoms, with
grief for both his Mother and Father, came on Christmas Eve. He spent a session
that morning and returned the day after Christmas with not ONE but TWO PIES ,
an apple and a strawberry-rhubarb pie. They were delicious! . His gift to me
saying thank you! In his trance he resolved both grief and forgiveness. Now
knowing his symptoms have been reduced. He stayed for another session. His
conviction for joy is evident. I believe he’s resolved to teach other people
how FMS can be changed through the techniques of HYPNOTHERAPY APPLICATIONS.
·
A woman whose long time boyfriend was in
anger after his diagnosis for Lung Cancer by the VA. He hung to life for almost
6 months longer than they estimated him to live. He became more angry and
bitter, so much so, this woman had to abandon caring for him, because of his
anger and rage. In an HOUR she broke the grief she had for him. She no longer
blames herself for her distance from him at his death. What a gift to walk out
of self blame in that difficult time which haunted her.
·
A man who was divorced and had remarried,
from Colton area, in his second marriage came on Christmas Eve. After his wife
divorced him, he found she was seeing another man during the end of their
marriage. His fear or grief over that loss was a problem for him, as he felt he
was going to continue in that way, his fear that his current wife was/is
cheating on him. Although an hour
was not enough, it was a huge step in finding his resolutions to find the best
love in his marriage he can. His promise was to come back and have further
applications of Hypnotherapy so he can walk out of the fear which he has been
rehearsing before is marriage to his wife. His children will benefit greatly in seeing their Father
exchange intimacy with their Mother.
These are a few
of the stories which were made more joyful through deep meditation and
emotional resolution in Hypnotherapy Applications. I cannot say that this was
all that was needed by these individuals. I can say it was a blessing, each of
these people needed.
The
emotional release and re-framing is the key to fast resolution. This is the
significant difference between Hypnotherapy: Abreaction, Desensitization and
Emotional Reframing over other modalities of counseling and behavior
modification. This is SUPER Cognitive Reframing.
Perhaps this was
the 1st Annual Grief Intervention for
Christmas. Perhaps next year, Christmas 2007 will be
a more joyous Christmas for others once the anger and fear of grief is
resolved… and in a short period of time.
Bless Your
Thoughts, Paul
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TRULY- Bless Your
Thoughts
We are conceived with Joy, Happiness and
Optimism.
No
one should have to remain locked in depression and grief for even ONE MINUTE
longer than necessary!
In our learning,
we acquire anger and fear. These components of Grief and Depression are
available for emotional release and reframing. Anger and Fear are components of
the past, which are available today for resolution.
If you agree to
become deeply relaxed and find resolution to each, your joyous resolution may
be near and available to you.
Perhaps the
positive change is available today.
Are you open to
no longer carrying the interruption of love created by anger?
Are you open to
changing the infection of fear, which causes inaction?
Would you like
overwhelming optimism joined with your intellect to achieve your aspirations
for the future, through action today?
I'm only here to
remind you, God gave you the free will to choose.
IF you could
choose your dream, and dwell in it, to create it to become true, which would
you choose? Love, Joy, Happiness and Accomplishments? Which do you choose? Do you choose to stayed hooked in
the emotional past?
How do you
choose? While running, or being relaxed?
Your choosing
process can become more cognitive, accurate, decisive and concrete in deep
relaxation.
Clinical
Hypnotherapy can be considered
“CHOICE
on STEROIDS”!
CHOOSE TO BLESS
YOUR THOUGHTS
The
phrase: Abreaction,
Desensitization and Emotional Reframing ©
Copyrighted
by Paul Rieker 2005, 2006, 2007
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information on Seminar dates and locations email
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Hypnotherapy makes the choosing process more
cognitive, accurate, decisive and concrete.
(Over 20 years, the best short description I can
present. Paul Rieker, 2006)
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