Testimonials
“Thank you so much for giving us the
experience of a lifetime.” April 2006
GM. Laguna Niguel, CA
Dear Paul,
Words cannot express how grateful I
am for what you have done for me. I must apologize for taking so long
to write to you. All of those stupid adult things I have to do just
take up so much time that my weekends are usually already over
before they begin. I also wanted to thank you. Anyway, you said you wanted a
story so here is one to get you started.
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I used to be one of those people who thought that I was never going to get better. I had been suffering from migraines every day for over five years, and as the weeks and months went by during that time, I contracted numerous other problems as well (which shall remain nameless for the time being). I couldn't sleep, I could barely walk, I was beyond depressed, and I didn't know what to do.
I had been to almost every specialist I could think of: Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Neurologists, Pain Centers, Sleep Centers, Bruxism specialists, Wrist specialists, General Physicians, etc., but nothing helped. Most of them thought I was too difficult of a case and just gave me drugs because they didn't know what else to do with me. And when none of the drugs helped, they got frustrated and dumped me.
I've taken well over fifty medications, from Zoloft to Vicadin, to Lithium, Topomax, Ambien, and Fiorinal w/codeine; (the list goes on for about two pages), but my tolerance was so high that none of them worked. Some of them gave me horrible side effects to top it all off.
The shrinks didn't help at all, in fact, they just made things worse. All they did was make me talk about all the things that were bothering me and then tell me what they thought I should do. Of course, then all I could think about was how I was "supposed" to do this, or "not supposed" to do that, and I couldn't stop thinking about all the bad stuff that I went there to get rid of!
After about 3 and a half years of going to all of these %#*!, I realized what a waste of my time they were and just stopped going to anyone. That's when I fell into the state of deep despair where I became the kind of person who thought that I would never get better.
Then one day, about 3 months ago, my Chiropractor gave me Paul's business card. At first I was pretty skeptical about hypnotherapy actually working, but I was so desperate at this point that I was willing to try anything. So I gave him a call, and on January 21 2006 I had my first session with him. Now here is the best part...Despite all my doubts, it worked so well that my depression went away and my husband told me that I smiled more in the first 20 minutes after that visit than I have in the past five years combined!
I have a very busy schedule so it is usually a while between visits, but I have continued to see Paul since then, and every time I do something even more wonderful happens to me. After my 3rd session with Paul, I woke up on March 27 (still 2006) without a headache for the first time in over five years! It was the most amazing feeling, and I have marked that day on my calendar so that I will never forget.
I am offering this story and
the following advice not only to all of you who are afraid that you will
never get better, but also to any of you who are unhappy or in any kind of pain
whatsoever. Please don't do what I did and wait until life is meaningless
and hopeless to see Paul. He did more for me in that first two hour
session than any of those specialists did for me in over three years, and
I know that he can do the same for you. Best wishes, B
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I have numerous stories to tell, so if you ever want another
one just let me know and I will be happy to oblige. Love, B Murrieta, CA May 8, 2006
In the story of a girl, 11 years
old, wetting her bed and chewing her fingernails, she found a resolution in a
session. The decision to not wet her bed was not immediately displayed, as it
took a few weeks for her Mother to confirm that her bed-wetting was resolved.
Her decision to be an adult, and
not want her parents attention at night, her decision to drink water in the
morning, rather than before going to bed… softly in deep relaxation. No one told her. She just made that choice.
She heard herself repeat that choice in an encouraging way.
After this young girl opened her eyes from being deeply relaxed, her Grandmother
heard her, as I asked her to put her hand to her mouth... her Grandmother heard
her say, it (her hand) doesn't belong
there.
Isn't it great to hear a child who is 11, and developing her social skills, who
previously could not go to sleep-overs, or learn to paint her fingernails could
make a huge shift - in a short period of time?
Isn't encouragement, in deep relaxation better than shame, for resolving bed
wetting? And isn't this encouragement better than Tabasco or other terrible
tasting application to her fingers?
She can develop her personal relationships with the kids who she'll graduate
with. She'll have a developed self-esteem. She'll find the boldness to meet and
participate, rather than the shyness to stay hidden. This occurred in an hour on a Sunday afternoon. A beautiful day,
the sun shining, with Joy and Happiness.
A gentleman asked me if I would
work with him to help him loose weight...
In his teenage years, he won
pie-eating contests at the fair.
He was ready to make the change.
After the 1st session, the next
day, he called saying all the positive influential suggestions to drink water,
finish dinner quickly and go for the evening walk with the conversations he
wanted to have his wife… was a very positive and real outcome.
2nd session a repeat of the 1st.
3rd session he found his resolution to never eat past feeling full again. Quite amazing, met him at breakfast 6 weeks later, he presented me with cantaloupe, grapes and black coffee, saying that's all he wanted. A big SMILE, saying THANK YOU SO MUCH –this is all I care to eat
Simply: what is that bad feeling you have which causes you to eat when you’re not hungry? How easy is that? Identify that aspect, and change the decisions around eating when you’re not hungry. Weight loss is not as much about diet, as it is about emotions and the resolutions around decisions in the individual belief systems.
What I consider to be a
compounding facet, is that the medical community doesn’t address the emotional
components of eating before a gastric bypass is implemented. You see, since
Gastric Bypass Surgeons don’t have this experience with resolving emotional
fixations, and in their lack of education around Hypnotherapy, that part of the
medical community will probably not encourage you to use your thoughts, your
mind, or your emotions to make a physical change in your behavior. The
techniques of Abreaction, Desensitization and Emotional Reframing© are
not easily accepted into their pre-surgery course to circumvent your surgery.
Medical Insurance possibly, may save tens of thousands of dollars in surgery
costs for EACH surgery! Families could be more loving when the emotions, which
cause over-eating are resolved. And in some additional beneficial way, there
are other outcomes when forgiveness becomes tangible. But, be careful, when you
talk to a surgeon about any issue, it’s likely his course of action is surgery!
Choose to Bless Your Thoughts.
Find your own encouragement and clarity of insight for your own impasse. For
you see, you are a very unique person. In your uniqueness, you will not have
the same thought as anyone else. You are not a statistic. You are a living
person with a mind full of desires, fears, loves, anger, and aspirations which
cannot be positively changed by anyone but YOU! How would you choose to talk to yourself, deeply relaxed and
find that encouragement to feel the enthusiasm and joy which you know is on the
other side of that barrier? Perhaps you’d like to identify that barrier and
feel the freedom, which is on the other side, and step through it. Bless your thoughts!
A woman,
her tongue raw from scraping against her teeth asked if we could resolve her
compulsion to lick her teeth.
Interesting. The scraping of her tongue on her teeth was uncomfortable. It captured
some significant amount of her mental energy from her daily activities.
Would you
consider, if there’s nothing on her teeth or tongue, there’s no reason to lick
them? But, there used to be a reason, from the past.
In deep relaxation, I asked her if she could tell me what she was licking off
her tongue, or off her teeth.
Her response was, I can't tell you. But, I said, you can spell it. Which she
did...
First letter... S Second Letter O Third Letter A Fourth Letter P. I
asked did your Mommy or Daddy wash your mouth with Soap? Mommy did, she
replied. And what was that word you said? Mommy did a good job of
stopping her from using that bad language, she couldn't say it, but she could
spell it.
First letter... C Second Letter R Third Letter A Fourth Letter P.
The break in the focused attention to this emotional event, perhaps 25 years
earlier kept her mind, emotions and events of the present, captured like a
prison in the past.
This is a good example of how in a short period of time, perhaps an hour, this
type of unhappiness can be changed.
By coming to this resolution, this young woman chooses to now Bless Her
Thoughts by being present in today, rather than captured in the past.
A gentleman who said he was not as successful as he thought he could be asked,
can we work on SUCCESS, and why I seem to thwart myself.
Exactly, sure, let's find it, with joy and happiness and optimism, was my
reply. Isn't that great, to open the conversation, without the probing of why
he isn't... we went straight to the issue.
I asked him to step up to the edge of that feeling, which he was standing at,
and with his agreement to walk into that conversation in the past which he
hasn't stepped through.
His experience was, HIS experience. Clearly in his childhood, Mom told him to
not do anything his younger brother could not do. His brother was a year and
1/2 younger. For his entire life, perhaps over 40 years he let his brother win
in golf and in business. But, after that day, after the experience of finding
the limiting emotional 'stuckness' in his way, without probing or questions, he
found it and with JOY and HAPPINESS he told his brother... that which he hadn't
said, but only felt, in his words, with the huge smile of OPTIMISM he knew
before his birth. And again knowing that his BROTHER LOVES HIM when he WINs in
his career, not feeling that he has to continue MOM's calling for him to
actually, TAKE CARE of his LITTLE BROTHER.
This man was living in that
conversation from then. Now was not a place he could focus on due to his
emotional connection to his Mother’s instruction. His focus of attention
changed. Now is where he can place his energy due to walking out of that
continued conversation to care for his brother.
Isn't it interesting how we get stuck. At the time is occurs it makes perfect
sense, logically sense in the emotions at the time it wasn’t positive in the
larger adult world of work and career 30 years later. We can all make emotional
decisions, which in childhood seem good learning, in adulthood they are
limiting.
Choose to BLESS YOUR THOUGHTS.
A worried Mother’s blessing for her daughter.
Follow up to this story: 5 months later
A 24 year old woman, who has been married
for 4 years, not engaging in emotional and intimate relationship with her
husband said she needed to correct this lacking in their relationship.
Interesting that when we looked into the heart of her issue, she found that Mom
told her - sex was bad.
How is it a 24 year old married
woman would live in Mom’s statement, perhaps toward a 12 year old girl, sex is
bad.
I asked her where did kittens come
from? Where did puppy dogs come from? Sex. Are kittens and puppy dogs good? You
can understand her dilemma. Mom was right, and continues to be right in that.
But, in this, this adult life Mom is wrong. She could not resolve Mom being
right and wrong. She was in a pickle.
The accepted agreement with her
Mom as a child, hearing sex was bad, and now having a significantly
deteriorated relationship in her marriage is a contradiction.
But, easily resolved. Tell Mom,
kitties are good, puppies are good. Kitties and puppies are the outcome of sex.
Mommy likes kitties and puppies, and Mommy can’t stop more kitties from being
born. Sex is good for kitties and puppies…and Mommy likes kitties and puppies
and husbands and love.
Is it ok to tell Mommy – I am an
adult woman, married to an adult man, and sex and intimacy is good.
Which she did, somewhat
reluctantly, as she had several emotional confrontations internally to herself
to resolve. But, in this session it was resolved, and the layers of intimacy
problems were being opened and resolved, with love, joy, happiness and the
optimism that life gets better, and her relationship with her husband is where
she chooses to live.
An 8 year old boy, whose Mother brought him to me, the boy previously taking
anti-depressants and acting drunk even on the lowest dose sat with me quietly,
on one Friday
morning. The child's depression was around having to live without mom, as she
remarried and the young boy had to live with his Grandmother.
I asked the child, after he was deeply in relaxation, is it ok to find the
forgiveness for Mom, which had kept you from telling her I love you.
In watching his facial expressions, he clearly displayed the emotional
transitions through the forgiveness process as he found the path in his own
way, without someone shaming him or telling him he was wrong.
Asking him, to resolve this with his Mom was laid in a path so when he opened
his eyes, he said to Mom, I LOVE YOU. It was his choice.
Isn't it wonderful for a child to find the forgiveness which was lacking, which
he needed for the situations in life which are not in our control, and not what
we choose, but in a resolution where we can resolve the clear statement.
I love you. Perhaps the largest shift this fractured family could
have, in an hour. Could there be more? Yes, but this was a great start.
A woman 40+ years old visited her mother everyday about
4 in the afternoon. Her mother has Alzheimer’s. Her mother would hit her with a
cane. This woman the care taker of her mother would go home about 5:30 and
immediately go to bed, not talking to her family or making dinner, and not getting
up until 7 or 8 the next day.
She asked if I could help. I was
happy to help find the impasse. Asking quietly, when was the 1st
time you didn’t feel safe with your mother?
I’m sorry to say, her uncle molested her. This woman as a child wasn’t
safe because her mother knew of the event and did not take action because she
was so economically bound, she had to decide whether to take her daughter away
to safety or have a place to live and eat.
This woman
found forgiveness for her mother, resolved this situation and never again
entered the depression she re-lived from her childhood. What a great blessing, in a short period of
time!
A man 50+ years old complained
that his elbow and arm was not healing. The doctor said he had tendonitis. I believed he was an active fellow, working
10 hours a day or more, and he just was more thoughtful of his work than his
healing. In 2 minutes, he transferred his attention in trance to the
conversation of FAVORING his arm so it could heal. He was specifically focused
on that conversation for no more than 10 minutes. 15 minutes total, into
trance, conversation and choosing to heal and 2 minutes to come out of trance.
2 weeks later, he called me and
said that he was operating equipment, which required much lifting. He said he
realized that he was keeping is left arm behind him, and recognized he was
doing this so he would not use it. He realized he was favoring his arm, with
his subconscious mind leading him. So, it could heal. Another 3 weeks later, he called and said he believed his arm
healed because he kept it from any action which would impair the healing
process. Thank you. This is a story,
which previously he would say that Hypnotherapy cannot heal his arm. But after
this story, he would say that Hypnotherapy didn’t heal his arm, it kept him
active, while his arm continued to heal on it’s own, as fast as it could.
Wonderful outcomes for 15 minutes of specific choice, and focus of that choice
for healing. This total session took
less time than to remove a plaster cast.
A man, 55+ years old has spoken of his
plans to open a business. He told me his plans for 2 years.
I asked him if he’d like to
identify the barrier which had kept him from acting on his successful outcome.
Trance was induced in 2 minutes.
In the next 3 minutes he accomplished the following:
1)
Stepped into the barrier
2)
Feel the impasse
3)
Identify the impasse
4)
Conversation with the person or people around the impasse
5) When that conversation was complete, he took a step with his feet to indicate the resolution was identified and was discussed internally to himself.
After opening his eyes he realized
the reason he had not opened his business. The reason was that he saw himself
as a child, sitting next to his Mother’s coffin at the funeral. He did not want
to get up and leave her.
Of course. There is more to the
resolution than can be achieved in 5 minutes. But, Isn’t it great to know, the
impasse – the REAL impasse can be identified in that time. And NOW the accurate
work can commence! Identifying the target, the tools and the vehicle has been
identified. The rest is straightforward.
What a blessing!
Would you find this amazing? NOT
that someone else identifies their impasse which kept them from living in the
now… But, that YOU have this same opportunity for you to identify what aspect
of your focused attention has kept you from living now. What has kept you from
loving now. What has kept you from being now. This resolution can be given to
you.
These impasses are not available
while we talk or while we drive, these are known in our extreme relaxed being.
Asking the quiet question, and listening for that quiet reply.
Would you like to have this simple
resolution opened and given to you, as a gift from yourself?
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