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Bless Your
Thoughts:
Why would anyone
continue with Depression, Grief, Rage, and Blame one minute longer than
necessary?
We are conceived with Joy, Happiness
and Optimism. BUT, when the reality of a loved one who COMMITS SUICIDE creates DESPAIR,
that despair becomes a real and tangible facet of our life.
I am sorry to say, I am a survivor of my own Mother's
suicide of October 8th 1976. My life experience of grief and anger, fear and
anguish was overwhelming. These emotions contributed to considering suicide
myself in 1984.
I am enthusiastic to say, this occurred in a short period
of time.
How does Emotional Reframe assist someone after a truly devastating experience, such as suicide of a loved one? And how in as little time as a month could this be true?
This document tells the story, with JOY... Complicated Grief
As individuals’ life experiences are different,
each of us has facets of worry, concern or sadness, which cause us to ruminate
before sleep, further causing our minds to run rampant. The emotional reframe
allows us to release the aspect of blockage, which is creating the 'grinding'
on that emotional thought or experience. That extreme sadness, without words,
and without human language causes the great despair of grief. The sadness,
we carry into sleep, and wake with, can be addressed. The reframe allows us
to shift out of sadness, anger and fear, rage, despair, and again find optimism.
When we work diligently to reframe these emotions, the optimism becomes freeing,
while continuing to honor that person in love.
Isn't that what you'd desire for a child who has just
fallen down? To get back up, and continue moving forward without staying stuck
in the memory, upset, hurt or sadness connected to the fall? To not let the
pain of the fall overwhelm them the rest of their lives, filling them with
anger, fear, and emotional dread for the future. Wouldn't you prefer that child
hold optimism for what lay ahead- the fun of participation, achievement,
interaction with friends?
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The Emotional Reframe causes us to consider and choose: A or B ... A) The memory of my Mother in Death; the last picture of saliva dripping from her mouth, blood dripping from her nose, and the smell of car exhaust. B) Swimming lessons and the smell of baking cookies. The 1st batch from the oven, too hot to eat with my Mommie. Just as she was, in the pool. or in the kitchen, just the way I joyfully remember her. The shift is emotional rather than logical. You can rewrite and reframe any event, and thereby shift its emotional impact. |
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This is most effective and achieves the "HIGH
NOTE" while in profound relaxation. - Unfortunately, most people don't
recognize they have a choice as to what emotion they have chosen. Most people
don't know, they can choose to NOT keep the bad feelings. Now that you've
read this...how would you talk to your little child, and how would you hear
that child speaking back to you? Would you prefer to become so relaxed that
you have new clarity to choose your feelings? |
You see, the emotional reframe is available to allow us
to choose the best, ONLY when we have the calm quiet sense of choosing for
ourselves as if we are speaking to a 5 year old child. It's too bad we didn't learn
this before life's emotional events captured our attention, and emotionally
hold us hostage from being loving and caring to 
others.
Can you consider this possibility, Emotional Release
and the rehearsal of talking to a child, hearing that so that you can move out
of the event.
The practice of Abreaction, Desensitization and
Emotional reframing is deceptively simple, and easy to dismiss. I've heard and
seen people complicate this simple process. It's outside their experience. It
is natural to reject the unfamiliar. It is natural to look to experts, who may
not have this experience to validate this. But of course, without the
experience of tasting a peach can someone validate that a ripe peach with the
sweet juice dripping from your chin, is an experience and pleasure that cannot
be fully explained with human language.
Now, without cliché, and again, without repeating your
emotional hurt, please consider my offer, the offering from my heart to allow
yourself to believe the better is available for you. Please hear my offer,
this process breaks the long standing belief that emotional binds require years
to resolve. In this process, the binds may melt away in hours. You see, it’s
possible to shift as many as ten emotional changes in an hour, through this
process. Essentially, it’s a negotiation!
Setting an agreement, which drives the expectation on an emotional
level. Yes, emotional level and not intellectual! Can you expect an emotional
reframe to occur in 5 minutes? So, why is 10 an hour difficult? Why make this
difficult?
That’s the problem – isn’t it? You would like it to be
easy, but you continue to choose to hear and hear again yourself say, I’m
right!- HE or SHE or THEM- it’s their fault! In that, you’re digging
your hole deeper; continuing to ruminate in the anguish. This continuing to
ruminate in the past is the emotional fixation. This unabated habit precludes
joy and optimism.
What NEW emotional experience do you wish to have in
the future, when you open the memory of the past? -Can you hear how this processes sets your expectation for
Love, Joy, Happiness and Optimism to become real? Even when it is applied to
death grief and depression? IF,
you were to examine the original process, which set the bad feelings to begin
with, you can perhaps see how it was this technique which laid the bad
feelings to begin with!
You established your bad feelings deep in your spirit,
your psychology and in your soul when you carried the anguish, or anger or fear
or all of these emotions into your mind when you drifted off to sleep. This is
how many emotions are learned, as the last thought when you transition to
sleep.
I’m
suggesting you use the same technique, to establish the good feelings, which
you’ve intellectually chosen to feel. That is become deeply relaxed and then
CHOOSE which feeling you want.
But, for many people, they are unfortunately telling
their own "small child" to remain in the fear or anger, which they
live in daily as if that day (the day they stored the traumatic event)
were the only day.
How would you suggest a child change their
perspective? Would you not want
someone to help guide a child to give up the emotional binds which prohibit
them from accessing all that is possible in life? Without teaching the therapy
here, just find the possibility that when a person is deeply relaxed, and they
hear their own words, in thought, as if they were gently talking to a child,
with encouragement and love…this technique breaks the stuck-ness and make great
progress for themselves. The unbelievable aspect of this is that YOU take your
own advice into your heart, and begin to find the emotional release. Once the
emotional release occurs (the abreaction), you too, can step out of the blame,
anger, grief, debilitation all the rumination has caused. Isn’t it time to live
with joy happiness and optimism again?
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A kind man asked me: Do you like bad feelings? ... Do you
want to keep your bad feelings?
These 2 simple questions made me realize, I have a choice!
And in that choice, I could remember baking cookies and swimming lessons.
BELIEVE ME! The emotional reframe around cookies and swimming is so
unbelievable, that when the overwhelming smile shows on my face, it becomes
obvious which memory I am living in. This is how I choose to Bless My Thoughts.
If this reframe required an hour or 10 hours to accomplish, that small
investment is huge, over a lifetime!
How do you choose to BlessYourThoughts?
These 2 simple questions led me to find and achieve the shift
in as many emotional binds, as fast as possible. These shifts changed my life
in less than 30 days. I've brought these same emotional shifts to other people.
They too asked themselves: "Do I like my bad feelings? Do I want to keep
them?” The expectation was set! Agreement
to move out of the past, set the next action. For each person it is always
their resolution, in their way, in their encouragement, just the way they need
to hear it.
This is available to you. It's for you too
choose. I invite you to be courageous, and give yourself the gift of yourself.
CHOOSE TO BLESS YOUR THOUGHTS....
Which would you suggest a 5 year old remember? Negotiate your new choice, and create the feeling you would like a child to live and grow with. Now, here’s the most comfortable part… in deep relaxation, hear your own advice!
The story
of Dan Roden and how these techniques changed my severe depression into Joy,
Happiness, and Overwhelming Optimism is available in manuscript form, which
will eventually be published as a national best seller. Please contact me as to
how you may receive your pre-publication copy. Letters
of Recognition <click to read letters.
The phrase: Abreaction, Desensitization and
Emotional Reframing © is Copyrighted by Paul Rieker 2005, 2006
The discussion about Abreaction is taught in this
video, which was recorded without professional equipment. Negotiation/Agreement/Expectation (Class at Mount San
Jacinto College –My personal thanks to Richard Kandas) This presentation is for teaching
‘technical terms’. Hopefully you find something, which is educational here.
This presentation on Abreaction is different from mainstream psychology or drug
therapy for depression. This is what cleared my personal depression in 1984.
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Hypnotherapy makes the choosing process more
cognitive, accurate, decisive and concrete.
(Over 20 years, the best short
description I can present. Paul Rieker, 2006)